It sounds cliché, but having a positive attitude goes really far in creating genuine happiness. Clichés are cliché because there is a grain of truth to all of them. Recently a few of the Worx girls attended an event with Julie Gaver, who had some sage advice about depending on yourself for happiness.
One of the biggest takeaways was something I will continue to do every day moving forward. Keep a notebook – nothing fancy – and every day, write down the best part of that day. Just a one-liner will do. Think of it as the headline of your story for that day. If you had a particularly happy day, your one-liner could be “I had ice cream.” However, you can only have this as the best part of your day for so long until you need to fix it. The best part of my day so far was talking about the highlights of my baby shower in the rain this past weekend with my friends. The headline for this one could be “A literal shower to celebrate the coming arrival of Baby B.” Good or bad, think of things that happen to you as life lessons. For instance, this weekend I realized that a lot of people care about us enough to hang out under a pavilion in the freezing cold rain and have a good time anyway. Looking back over some of these headlines will make you feel just a little wiser, so why not record it?
Sometimes life can be unpredictable and it feels like the world is against you. It is ok to ask for help. You don’t always have to be strong. Other people can seem like they have it all together when you don’t even know how to adult. All of these feelings are valid. Julie’s advice: Try to find something funny about what stresses you out the most. When things go wrong – reflect on it and think about what you’ve learned.
This reflects and shifts attitude will help you to begin looking for laughable, embarrassing moments to learn from. Stress is unavoidable, and sometimes it can make you forget why you do what you do. But sometimes… people or things remind and help you to understand WHY you do what you do.
“Life is series of tests followed by lessons. In the end, it all comes down to grace. It is how you accept winning and losing, good and bad, darkness and light.” – Anonymous.